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Personality Isn’t Permanent by Dr. Benjamin Hardy

Welcome to a new section in our blog called DPM Reads!

During our time during quarantine, we have been hosting virtual hangouts with our staff and we have discovered all of the diverse interests our staff has. We have decided to start adding different blogs to share some of the insight into the various things that help make DPM unique.

Our inaugural DPM Reads will be a review of the book Personality Isn’t Permanent by Dr. Benjamin Hardy.

We were lucky enough to receive an advance copy of the book to review before its release on June 16th.

This book could not be timelier, as during quarantine we could not escape the number of people taking personality tests to pass their time and act as some sort of magical guide to better understanding themselves. This book summed up in one sentence is that you can actively work to create the life that you want, and it is all in how you show up every day.

I’m sure we can all think of a time when we said “I can’t do this, I am shy”, “I’m an introvert”, “I have never been good at x.” We use these statements as an excuse and proof because at one point we were not good at something, or something was difficult for us, and then we used that to never try it again or excuse ourselves from putting in the effort.

Dr. Hardy discusses how it does not matter what our past has been, what matters is who you want to be, and what matters, even more, is the choices that you make. Regardless if you were the jock in high school or barely passed math, that is who you were and not who you are now. The same can be said that who you are now, is not the same as who you will be in the future. Our personalities change over time regardless of intention, but when you are intentional about how you want to become is when you can make dramatic and directed changes.

We live in a socially connected world, and with everything, at our fingertips with the internet, we have more choices now than ever before. As a result, the choices we make are even more important because every time you say “yes” to one thing, you are saying “no” to everything else at that moment. It is important that you make intentional choices; are you saying yes to things, activities, people, etc. that get you closer to who you want to be or further from it?

This book has journal questions at the end of each chapter that is thought-provoking and will help you get clear on what you want for your life. We highly recommend this book because not only does it give you the insights to help you get clear on what you want from life, but it also makes you realize that you do have control. We are not shackled to the personality we were born with. If you do not like something about yourself, you have the power to change it.

Will it be easy, no. Will it be worth it, yes.

This book will allow you to reclaim some certainty back during this time. It seemed as if the whole world halted with COVID-19 when we realized just how much is out of our control, but what this book states over and over again, is that you have control over you and that is such an empowering realization. The world can throw everything at you, but only you can decide how, or even if, it affects you.

To preorder Personality Isn’t Permanent, please see the link: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/607021/personality-isnt-permanent-by-benjamin-hardy-phd/

Let us know if you grab a copy or share your reads with the DPM Team!